hello Catbird
I have recently had a couple of big changes in my life, children leaving home, and the death of a dear friend.
I am feeling like I need to reevaluate my life and change directions, but am overwhelmed by the prospect.
Where do I start?
Stalled in Seattle
ps do you need more information to change my life?
Dear SIS,
Without doubt, the best thing for you would be to go for regular coffee visits with some lame-assed friend, and listen to her go on and on about her trivial, juvenile, and decidedly moronic concerns. That way, you can go on with your day feeling wonderful, because AT LEAST YOU AREN'T HER!
But that would just be a quick and temporary fix for your current state of mind. What you need to do, and I know how tedious this sounds, is give yourself time. You need to give yourself time to rediscover who you are. Put away any notions that you must, or even can, do this quickly.
All parents, especially mothers I would say, devote such energy into that role that over the course of teen-odd years, the person they were prior to precious little parasite's birth is a distant memory. What did you like to do then? What did you fantasize about doing? How did you see yourself 20 years down the road? I'm not saying these ancient ideas are the answer, but they might be a starting point to get you in the habit of thinking about you now. You, instead of others. The goal is to redefine yourself somewhat. Hard work, but necessary. Take your time. This is a process. With any luck, maybe your lame-assed friend can be convinced to shut up for a minute and help.
Catbird
